plz is letter ko avoid mat ki jeeyega . plz respond to this letter by mailing me.thnz

[jaanlevaajnabee]

dear readers ( anyone who reads this ),
hi everybody . mera naam raj hai . main 19 saal ka hoon aur dubai mein rehne wala ek hindustani hoon . usually to main sirf aaj tak aap logon ki is pyaari si site mein sirf shers padne aata tha . kyunki mujhe bhi sher aur shayari ki bahot shaokh hai . aap logon ke sher bahot achche lagte hain mujhe aaj bhi . magar aaj main is site mein aap logon ka sher padne to nahin magar aap logon se kuch kehne , kuch likhne aaya hoon . kuch aisi baatein kehne aaya hoon jo mere dil mein hai aur jise main aap logon tak pahunchane aaya hoon .aur plz is letter koi koi bhi avoid mat keejeeyega .yeh meri aap sabhi se request hai . ho sakta hai ki aap mein se kuch logon ko meri baatein buri lage jiske liye main aap logon se maafi maangta hoon magar jo main kehne jaa raha hoon woh ek fact hai jise na main aur na aap log jhutla sakte hain . yeh baatein kuch aise sawal hai jinka mere paas koi jawab nahin hai , aur jin baaton ka main jawab chahta hoon aur unhi jawabon ko dhunte huye main yahan pahuncha hoon aap logon ke paas is umeed mein ki jo main kehna chahta hoon ushe aap log samjhe aur agar sahi lage to ushe karne ki koshish karen . yeh baatein kuch aisi baatein hain jo na sirf mujhse balki sabse judi huyi hain . bas fharak itna hai ki kuch log is baare mein sochte hain aur apne apni kismat samjhkar apne aap ko koste hain aur kuch log un baaton ko samjhna hi nahin chahte hain . magar main isi baat ko uthana chahta hoon kyunki main jaanna chahta hoon ki aakhir yeh hota hi kyun hai . aur hota hai to hota hai humari hi wajah se aur agar hum chahe to aisa hone se rok sakte hain . to phir aakhir hum aisa hone hi kyun dete hain ? aisa nahin ki main famous hona chahta hoon yeh sab likh kar par in sawal se ladne wala ek main hi nahin hoon . bahot log hain is ladaai mein jo is ladaai ko chupkar lad rahe hain magar main ab is ladaai ko apni tarah se open kar raha hoon . kahin aisa na ho ki ladte ladte agar main harne lagoon to aisa lage ki ek main hi hoon jo is ladaai se haar gaya . aur is ladaai mein mujhe aap logon ka saath chahiye . bas ab main aap logon ko suspense mein nahin rakhoonga .
baat yeh hai ki hum sab aur especially hum indians har cheez mein aage nikal rahe hain . har kadam par indian ladkon aur ladkiyon mein stiff competition hai . aaj kal agar sach dekha jaaye to ladkiyan kisi bhi mod par ladkon se peeche nahin hai . haan nagar ek cheez mein peeche hain zaroor . aur woh hai pyaar ka wada nibhane mein . main jaanta hoon ki yahan jitne bhi log aate hain un mein se bahot saare log pyaar mein wishwas karte hain aur is liye mujhe yeh baat kehne mein aashaani hogi kyunki maine pehle kabhi kisi site mein kuch na likha . yeh kuch pehli baar likh raha hoon aur yeh sochkar ki aisa koi to hoga jo ise padega aur mujhe kahega ki raj may be u r not wrong . anyways main ladkiyon ke baare mein kuch keh raha tha . actually meri ladkiyon se koi dushmani nahin hai . kyunki meri life mein meri do best friends aur koi nahin balki do ladkiyan hi hain . but mujhe yeh nahin samjh mein aata ki aakhiri aisa hai jo ladkiyon ko humse alag karta hai . dekho doston , main maanta hoon ki agar aap kahege ki maa baap ke kehne se aankhein band karke shaadi kare , pyaar kare , to aap log bilcul bhi galat nahin hain . magar agar humare maa baap humari khushi chahte hain to kabhi aisa kyun hota hai ki maa baap humari khushi nahin dekhte ? ab yeh hi bataiye mujhe ki agar hum kisi se pyaar karte hain aur woh humare laayak ho har cheez mein to phir maa baap ko kya aietraaz hota hai aur kyun hota hai ? agar woh dekhte hain ki ladka ya ladki perfect hai to caste , religion ka reason nikaal kar humari khushiyon ko taala laga dete hain . aur aksar dekha gaya hai ki agar ladka aur ladki agar apni baat manwaane par aa jaayen to unki baat zyada din tal bhi nahin sakti hai . magar yeh bhi ek sach hai ki agar aaj ke zamane mein bhi agar ladka ek ladki ke liye sab kuch karne ko tyaar ho jaaye yahan tak ki bas us ladki ko apna lakshya bana kar chalne lage to problem ladki ki taraf se aati hai . ladkiyan pehle to pure himmat ke saath apne pyaar ko nibhane ka wada karti hai magar baad mein wohi peeche hat jaati hain , ladke ko bilcul akela aur besahara chod kar . main punchta hoon aap sab se ki kya yeh sahi hai ? aap ki apni zindagi aap logon ko jeeni hai , ya aapke maa baap ya kisi aur ko ? apne kadam peeche lene ke samay aap sirf apne maa baap ke baare mein hi kyun sochte ho ? kyun nahin yeh sochte ki jisse aap pyaar karte ho woh apne aage peeche ke sab logon se naata todte huye aapke paas aane ki koshish mein hai jiska safal hona ya naa hona aapke haath mein hai ? aakhir sacha pyaar karna hi kya itna bada gunnah hai ki uski nakamayaabi hi uska anjaam hai ? agar aap maa baap ki haisiyat se is baat ko pad rahe hain to main aap logon se punchta hoon ki aakhir aap logon ke maan mein kya hai ? ek taraf aap kehte hain ki hum apne bachon se bahot pyaar karte hain aur dusri taraf aap apni hi bachon ki khushiyon ko aag lagate hain jab woh yeh keh de ki woh kisi se pyaar karte hain ? kyun unhi bachon ki marzi punche bina unka rishta teh kar diya jaata hai ? aur iske baad agar woh marna chahte hain , marne ki koshish karte hain ya phir ghar chodkar bhaag jaate hain to iska zimedaar kaun hai ? agar aap kahe ki hum nahin bache galat hain to phir main is baat ko nahin maanta . are jab hume khud ki zindagi khud hi ko jeeni hai to phir hum ise ghut ghut kar kyun jeeyen ? aakhir jab pyaar karte ho tab hi kyun nahin dil mein than lete ho aap log ki ab hum hamesha apne pyaar ko nibhayenge aur kabhi bhi us pyaar ka saath naa chodenge ? kyun apne hi maa baap se darr kar aisa galat faisala karte ho jisse aap honestly speaking 3 zindagiyan barbaad karte ho ? ek apni , dusri apne pyaar ki , aur teesre us insaan ki jo tumhari zindagi mein sirf is liye aaya hai mein tumhare maa baap ki wajah se? kyun ladka hi sab kuch karta hai hamesha aur ladkiyan peeche reh jaati hain is maamle mein ? main inhi baaton ka jawab dhund raha hoon jiska jawab aur koi nahin sirf aap log hi mujhe de sakte hain . mujhe sach much aap logon ke jawab aur responses ka intezaar rahega . kyunki aakhir main bhi jaana chahta hoon ki sab kaisa sochte hain . apne responses plz mujhe mere email par bhejiyega . mera email address hai : jaanleva_ajnabee@hotmail.com . plz apne responses mujhe zaroor bhejiyega . main aapke responses ke milne ke baad hi aage kuch aur likhunga . till then bye everybody . and take care.
waiting for ur responses....
raj

[reemzi]

hi, well this is a good question. and as u sed u need to know other peoples views on this. well i am addin u to my msn, n id like to chat with u abt it if u dont mind? i am Reema, n i am in love with a person n i am ineterested in wot u hve asked. so hope u will like to know wot i think.

tc

[chaahat]

Hello Raj,
This is not fair if u r blaming girls for everything.
Saari galati ek insaan ki nahi hoti... kuch galatiyan aur haalaat mil kar ek galat kaam anjaane mein bhi karva jaate hain.

I know u'll say that, that I'm a girl that's why mujhe ladkiyon ki taraf daari to karni hi hai... Agar tum aisa sochte ho to yeh bilkul galat hai. Main yeh sab is liye keh rahi hun, kyunki ek ladki hone ke baavjood maine apne ghar vaale ke against gayi hun... aur ab result yeh hai ki meri shaadi jaldi hone vali hai mere pyar se.

Aapne kaha ki ladke sab karte hain... jaise parivaar chod diya, maa baap chod diye, ghar chod diya ladki ke liye... to ladkiyan bhi sab kuch karti hain...

Haan lekin unka tareeka thoda sa alag hota hai....

ladkiyan thodi selfish hoti hain... aur woh selfish and bhooki hoti hai pyar ki... dono ke pyar ki, apni family aur apni mohabbat ke pyar aur saath ki..

woh kisi ka bhi saath chodna nahi chaahti.,... woh chaahti hain ki dono hi maan jaayein...

Main bhi is bhavar ka hi hissa hun... maine bhi yahan shayri pe aa ke sabki raaye maangi thi.. ki agar chunna pade apne parivaar aur pyar mein se, to kise chune, aur kyun?


http://www.shayri.com/forums/showthr...threadid=14451

shaayad yeh padh ke kuch sawaalon ke jawaab aapko mil jaayein.

Is baat ko ek ladka aur ek ladki alag nazariye se dekhte hain... chaahe baat ek hi hai.. lekin phir bhi sochne ke tareeke mein bahut farak hota hai...

Ladke aksar is baat mein bahut selfish ho ker yeh keh dete hain ki main sabko chod doonga sirf tim chaahiye ho...

to aap mujhe bataaiye kya woh theek hai???

Aapke maa baap ne aapko kitne saal pyar kiya, paala, itna bada kiya.. aur aaj kisi aur ke liye aap unhe chod doge???

to id baat ki bhi kya gaurantee hai ki kal kisi aur ke liye aap usko nahi chod doge?

Dekho Raj, main yahan koi ladaai karne nahi aayi.. tumne sabki raaye jaanni chaahi jo main keh rahi hun.. bura lage to is nakaar dena... dil mein koi baat rakh ke ladkiyon se nafrat mat karne lag jaana.

Main maanti hun ki kabhi kabhi ladkiyan apne maa baap ke aage kamzor pad jaati hain... jab unhe yeh sunne ko milta hai ki mere papa mere jaane ke baad is duniya se chale jaayenge... aur mujhe unke aakhiri darshan bhi naseeb na honge....

woh sirf pyar karna aur pyar baantna jaanti hain...

Aap hi ne kaha ki aap ki apni zindagi aap logon ko jeeni hai , ya aapke maa baap ya kisi aur ko ? apne kadam peeche lene ke samay aap sirf apne maa baap ke baare mein hi kyun sochte ho ? kyun nahin yeh sochte ki jisse aap pyaar karte ho woh apne aage peeche ke sab logon se naata todte huye aapke paas aane ki koshish mein hai jiska safal hona ya naa hona aapke haath mein hai ? aakhir sacha pyaar karna hi kya itna bada gunnah hai ki uski nakamayaabi hi uska anjaam hai ?

Sach hai zindagi humne jeeni hai.. lekin abhi tak jitni bhi ji hai, maa baap ki ungli pakkad kar, unke sahaare se ji hai.. aur aaj hum woh sahaara chod denge? tod denge???

Kadam peeche nahi hataate to kya apne maa baap ko us haalat mein dekh lete???

To kya sirf pyar ka soch kar apne parivaar ko jinke saath aap ab tak rahe ho unhe tyaag toge, to agar kal woh kuch kar lete hain to uska zimmevaar kaun hai??

Lekin agar ladki hi kuch kar leti hai to uska zimmevaar kaun hai?

Zimmervaar na ladki hai, na ladka hai, aur na hi parivaar hai.. Zimmevaar hai haalaat.. jo yeh sab karne pe use majboor karte hain..

In sab sawaalo ke sahi jawaab to shaayad koi bhi nahi de sakta...

Kyunki jab vakt aa jaata hai, tab ladki bhi apne parivaar ko chod deti hai apne pyar ke liye.. lakdi kamzor nahi, aur use bhi sacha pyar karna aata hai.. lekin sab ek jaise nahi hote...

do insaan kabhi bhi ek se nahi hote... woh alag tareeke se sochte hain, mehsoos karte hain, aur us par koi bhi rok nahi hai.

Main nahi jaanti ki aapko questions ko kahan tak main address kar paayi hun... lekin yeh sach hai ki ladki jab bhi pyar karti hai, ant tak jaati hai.. lekin apne pyar ke liye apne maa baap ka ant nahi dek sakti.. aur na hi apne maa baap ke liye apne pyar ka ant dekh sakti...

woh humesha is chakki mein piss jaati hai.. kiska daaman pakde, aur kiska chode.. jab dono hi uske apne hain, aur ek ke bina bhi woh ji nahi sakti.... kisi bhi haal mein khush nahi hogi....

Ladke bhi to sirf apna hi sochte hain ladki ke baare mein uski khushiyon ka nahi sochte...

lekin ladki sabka sochti hai.. aur khud piss jaati hai...

Main yahan Reema (reemzi) ka pm padk ke aayi thi, nahi to yeh miss kar jaati....

Main aapse phir kehti hun.. yeh meri raaye hai.. aisa main sochti hun aur is mein vishwaas karti hun. ho sakta hai aapko mere vichaar pasand na aaye.. but please don't take it wrong.

Everyone has a right to express the way they feel.

Good luck!

~Priya

[jaanlevaajnabee]

hi priya ,
kaisi ho aap ? oh priya , main kisi board meeting mein nahin baitha hoon . is liye main aap aap nahin kahoonga . main yahan apne doston se sawal karne aaya tha aur jo jawab de rahe hain woh bhi mere dost hi hain . aur doston mein formalities nahin hoti . priya main tumhari se naraaz nahin honn. jab maine woh letter likha tha tabhi maine har jawab ko accept karne ki thani thi . magar jaisa tum kehti ho , woh pura sach nahin hai . maana ki mere saath bhi aisa hi huya aur uske wajah se main chahta hoon ki yeh aur kisi ke saath na ho . is liye main sab ki aakhein kholna chahta hoon . aur jaisa tum kehti ho priya , to yeh jaan lo ki main ladkiyon ko zaroor dosh de raha hoon magar meri unse koi dushmani nahin hai . agar tum mera pehla letter padhogi phir se to tumhe pata chalega ki meri teen best friends aur koi nahin balki do ladkiyan hi hai . ab priya mujhe yeh batao ki agar main kuch galat maanta ladkiyon ke baare mein to kya meri best friends ladkiyan hoti . main bhi yahan na tumse na kisi se ladne aaya hoon magar priya apne aap ko dekho , apne pyaar ke liye thodi si sachayi ke saath ladi aur dekho , tumhara pyaar tumhe bahot jald milne wala hai . ab yeh batao ki kya priya jaisi har ladki kyun nahin kar sakti hai ? maana ki maa baap ki baatein maankar hum chale to kya hum us pyaar ko nahin maar rahe jise humne zindagi bhar saath nibhane ka wada kiya tha ? aur maa baap ki hi sunni hai aakhir aur apne pyaar ko nahin nibha to phir ladkiyan pyaar hi kyun karti hain ? kya ladke pyaar ke bhookhe nahin hote ? kya unhe pyaar nahin chahiye hota ? priya ladki chahe to tumhare jaise kathor banke apne maa baap ke aage kabhi ho jaaye to tum log achchi tarah jaante ho ki aaj kal ke zamaane mein maa baap ka marna kyunki pyaar huya hai ladki ko yeh sab bakwas hai . main ek ladka hone ke baad bhi yeh sart lagta hoon tumse aur un sabhi ladkiyon se jo is mail ko padengi kabhi ki agar woh apne pyaar ko nibhane par ek baar soch le to phir koi maa baap maarne nahin nikal jaate . darane se agar tum ladkiyan darr jaaogi to phir mere hisab se ladkiyon ko pyaar nahin karna chahiye . kyunki pyaar nibhane ke liye himmat chahiye jo tumhari baat mujhse keh rahi hain ki ladkiyon mein nahin . and it's so simple agar ladki pyaar hi na karegi to phir yeh sab lafde hi nahin honge . magar tum apne dil se puncho priya , ladkiyan kisi ko pyaar karne se apne aap ko rok paati hai ? nahin na. hum bhi nahin rok paate . magar hum ushe nibhate hain har mumkin kohshish ke saath kyunki hum jaante hain ki ek na ek din sab thik ho hi jaayega . jab hum yeh soch kar apne pyaar ki taraf badhte hain to kya ladkiyan tumhare jaise sochkar nahin chal sakti . main ladkiyon ke khilaaf bilcul nahin hoon . priya main sirf sab ki aankhein khona chahta hoon ki sabhi ne jaan buchkar band ki huyi hain . ab chahe woh maa baap ho ya hum jaise log . priya tum bhi humari tarah sochti ho magar tumhare letter se laga jaise ki tum samjhi nahin ki main kya kehna chahta hoon magar i hope ki ab is letter se tumhe samjh aa jaayega ki aakhir mera lakshya kya hai . n i didn't feel bad on anything u said . but may be my this letter may make u think wrongly . if it does i m sorry 4 that coz i just want to tell everybody what is happening is wrong n why they shouldn't let it happen ? hope to hear from u soon .
raj

[chaahat]

Raj,
tumhare hisaab se to kisi ladki ko phir pyar karne ka hak nahi hai jo kisi mushkil ke kaaran nibha na paaye..

Smajhti hun ki tum ladkiyon ke khilaaf nahi ho.. lekin dosh ladkiyon ko hi de rahe ho..

To main aapko yeh bataana zaroori samjhti hun.. ki ladke bhi pyar nibhaane se peeche hat jaate hain.. kyun hatte hai theek se nahi keh sakti kyunki main ladka nahi hun.

Ladkiyon ki feelings maine tumko bataani chaahi.. lekin shaayad tum ladki to kabhi samjhoge hi nahi.

Maanti hun ladkon ko bhi pyar chaahiye hota hai.. lekin use kaise nibhaate hain kisi ladki se poocho..

aur pyay agar soch ke kiye jaaye to woh pyar nahi hai.. woh to ek sauda hota hai..

aap keh rahe ho ki is sachaai se oarda hataana chaahte ho?????

kuch nahi milega tumhe dost..

yeh woh sachaai hai jo sab jaante bhi hai, aur phir bhi nahi dekhte..

jab pyar hota hai tab uska ant nahi dekha jaata.. pyaar mein beete kuch pal hi kabhi kisi ki saari zindagi ka sabab ban jaate hain..

Maine jaise himmat ki hia.. vaise hi hazaaaron karodon ladkiyan himmat karti hain....

Aur haan agar ab aap yeh kahenge ki sirf ladki hi pyar nibhaane se peeche hatti hai to yeh sara sar galat hoga...

Aap peeche nahi hate iska matlab yeh nahi hai ki koi bhi peeche nahi hatta... Kitne hi ladke apne maa-baap ke kaaran ladki to aise hi mukaam pe chod dete hain jahan uske paas kuch bhi nahi rehta..

Vaise baat ladka ladki ki nahi hai.. baat to samjh ki aur himmat ki hai.. jo dono ko hi chaahiye.. pyar karne ka hak dono ka hai, aur pyar karna kisi ke haath mein nahi hota..

Bhagwaan kare sabke pyar mukammal hon.

Best wishes.

~Priya

[dinesh_patial]

aaj tak humane dosto kabhi kisi sai pyar nahi kiya per abhi haal hi mai humai ek acchi ladki bhi mil gayi aur humari net per hi dosti ho gayi aur hum mil bhi liye kaafi acchi hai aur humari dosto mai kash dost bhi hai aur humara phela pyar bhi yaro humai to koye experience nahi pyar karne ka but fir bhi humai kisi sai pyar ho gaya to hum kya kar sakte hai bese bhi yar

bina pyar kai dosti ho hi nahi sakti kyoi jab ek dost kai dil mai uske liye pyar hoga aur jise chaho bho bhi pyar kare to dosti rang laati hai aur agar dosti time pass ho aur ese hi ki jaaye to bekar hai dosti dil sai karo yeh nahi jise dost banoo use yun hi chod do

hum dost banana psand karte hai aur humai accha bhi lagta hai aap mai sai koye humara dost banana psand karega

bus yar itana hi kaafi hai kyoi first time mai hi itana kehana bekar hai

aap mai sai jo bhi humari dosti kabool kare bho humai mail kare aur apne bare mai bataye

e_mail id sonu_kumar444@yahoo.com

22/m/faridabad
aur aap bhi bataye apne bare mai

ek baat aur humai true friends acche lagte hai
jo har time kaam aaye aur hum bhi

[VijayKSuvarna]

Hi Raj,

This is Vijay/24/software engineer working in Satyam Hyderabad.

You might have seen my caption "If loving is wrong I don't want to be right"
I am a strong supporter of love.... Fortunatley or unfortunatley I am still waiting for my girl ..... I have many girls as best friends.
I have seen the many faces of love as, many of my friends already in this stage or gone through these stages.
What ever you told, I won't say that's not ture.
What ever you told, I won't angre also.

First thing, you mentioned that why they spoil the life of 3 persons by marring some one else..... than loved one. Her life, loved one's and the one whom she marry.
But if she marry loved one, without their parents approval( means they run away or so) I feel she is going to spoil the life of 2 families..... one is her family and another is her lover's family.... the family is much more than 3 persons. And also the life is not being with just 2. She is for me, I am for her. This logic looks very good for dailogues, but in real life it is very hard to digest.
And more even, when girls won't get support from their parents they usually turn off to their love stories, this is becuase they will be more attached to the family....and also they feel insecure.

I am not saying this is correct also. What i am saying in these cases try to convince your parents and her parents too, then you can take a call. If any one family is convinced for this love, then she will really feel secure and may be ready to come with you.

Chahat123(sorry I don't know the name), sahi likha hey ki Sach hai zindagi humne jeeni hai.. lekin abhi tak jitni bhi ji hai, maa baap ki ungli pakkad kar, unke sahaare se ji hai.. aur aaj hum woh sahaara chod denge? tod denge???

See that how they took us till now. They saw the life more than what we saw. Yes, we have to live our life, but with their advice, because they know the life better. You know, when we are sick we need to take tablets, injections. If you say it hurts, then you won't be come out of that sickness. That's what your parents do.

The best thing to do is, talk with them. Ask them, why? Listen with a cool head, analize then decide. I hope you are grown enough to take decissions of your life.

-- Vijay